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B E G I N N E R'S M I N D buddhist meditation


I Feel So Frightened
I woke this morning not knowing quite what I was feeling but not happy. Then when I sat I realised that there was something disturbing...
Nigel Wellings
Oct 15, 20242 min read


I've Been Bullied
I think I’ve been bullied. It’s an unfamiliar feeling and it took me a while to recognise it. The context was a conversation. I felt...
Nigel Wellings
Oct 8, 20242 min read


What To Do With Hate
There are a lot of emotions around at the moment about the horror of the Middle East. Why wouldn’t there be, emotions tell us what...
Nigel Wellings
Oct 5, 20243 min read


Love, Itself Was Gone
Yesterday I was talking with a friend about the similarities between the first nation Americans and the Tibetans, both have a very...
Nigel Wellings
Sep 13, 20243 min read


Caught Myself Out Again
There’s a saying: you never know what goes on in other peoples relationships. I guess it means the weird stuff. Well, one of the weird...
Nigel Wellings
Sep 5, 20244 min read


Yeah yeah, next
A new friend recently told us how hard being at a retreat had been for her. Her mind had just gone on and on. She then told us about a...
Nigel Wellings
Aug 23, 20243 min read


I Love Trump (really?)
Well, perhaps not, but should I try? It’s a good question for those of us who want to practice Buddhist loving kindness and compassion...
Nigel Wellings
Aug 1, 20242 min read


It’s Not All About Me
This morning I tried to write about why we practice this bodhisattva thing - why is it so good to not just do it for ourselves but...
Nigel Wellings
Jul 25, 20243 min read


I’m Not Feeling The Love
Time for another short and practical blog. So what happens if we are invited to do a loving kindness meditation and we find ourselves not...
Nigel Wellings
Jul 18, 20242 min read


Essence Love 3
It seems Tsoknyi Rinpoche’s description of something that he calls ‘essence love’ is not only easily misunderstood but also, when...
Nigel Wellings
Jul 7, 20244 min read


Essence Love 2
In the previous blog on Essence Love I said, ”Tsoknyi Rinpoche offers some exercises that when practiced rebalance our subtle body and...
Nigel Wellings
Jul 3, 20242 min read


Essence Love
The genius of Tsoknyi Rinpoche’s How To Meditate book is that he takes ideas that we already know and repackages them in such a way that...
Nigel Wellings
Jun 27, 20243 min read


So Ordinary You Could Miss It
Last weekend I attended a two day teaching retreat led by someone called Jetson Khandro Rinpoche, a female Tibetan Lama. (Translated her...
Nigel Wellings
Jun 19, 20242 min read


A Light Touch
We have two friends, a couple, who visited us recently. She is a Jungian and he a Zen teacher, a sensei. We don’t really talk about it...
Nigel Wellings
Jun 6, 20245 min read


The Cosy Igloo
This is a quick one but fun. When I came up with the image of our meditation practice being like three rooms with a comfy chair in the...
Nigel Wellings
Jun 5, 20241 min read


Hold On To Your Hat
What does it mean to actually awaken? We frequently distinguish between practicing meditation to help us be healthy human beings and a...
Nigel Wellings
May 23, 20243 min read


Opening the Open Door
How do we recognise our buddha-nature, the awakened mind that is already here and now? This is a tricky question for us, not because it...
Nigel Wellings
May 22, 20244 min read


'I' Can't Understand
There are so many words and phrases that are difficult to immediately understand in Buddhism. One is the word ‘mind’, which in Sanskrit...
Nigel Wellings
May 10, 20244 min read


Mapping the Sky
Our small community of practitioners started a new book last night - Why We Meditate by Dan Goleman and Tsoknyi Rinpoche. So where does...
Nigel Wellings
May 2, 20244 min read


What is it with Comfy Chairs?
Writing a blog is interesting. You can see how many people read it - or at least momentarily open it! Out of all the posts on this site,...
Nigel Wellings
Apr 18, 20243 min read
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